Birthdays are good times for celebrations. Yes! another fruitful year of one’s existence. But as the age of counting goes, it gives a bit of “want ” to stay in your preferred young age and stop counting.
When you reached the age of 35 and you are still single, and that almost all of your batch mates are happily married with kids, well it gives a little bit of pressure in your part but still pretending not to mind. And it does not stop there, because everybody seems to notice and keeps asking the same question over and over . If you are not ready yet then let it be, don’t push yourself. Take your time and it will definitely come.
The good thing about being 35 and beyond is that you gain more wisdom, the more experienced you become more matured from learned mistakes and bad decisions that molded you enough in becoming a much better individual. Being 35 and beyond has its positive sides :
(>) Taking things slow. As the saying goes ” slowly but surely ” old mantra though but still works . When you are young, you tend to make decisions in outburst of anger, when still hurting, too much into something or when too much in love ( too much emotions rushing-in ), when confused and when you are in deep depression without thinking twice or without even thinking at all. Decisions are made. Thus, decisions are always “emotional” based on immediate feelings alone without any intellectual consultations.
You end up more confused, more hurt, more depressed and wrong decisions with its consequences that change your entire life. So take your time to think before making a huge decision.
Note : In every wrong decision you make, you give people the consent to judge you.
(>) Facing criticisms, detractors, negative statements, and wrong judgement or allegations with humble gestures of optimism.
People who judged your life based on your past or just want to say “mean” words are those people lacking wisdom, self-fulfillment and spiritual reflections.
I have been criticized, misjudged and wrongly scrutinized. I’m not a celebrity, I’m just an ordinary person who wants to live a simple life in the province and yet people I know said worst things about my looks, my profession and my wrong decisions boiling down to its consequences.
I don’t feel bad because they can say whatever they want, but they cannot take away the fact that I’ve achieved my childhood dream, that I do what I love to do and in a way has some contributions to the society without any compensations.
People may laugh and gossip about your life but at the end of the day, if they look into their own lives, do they have a perfect life or do they feel happy talking about someone’s failure, misfortune and flaws? You don’t focus on these people because whatever you say or do, you will never good enough to them, as the saying goes ” you cannot please everyone “.
Note : Don’t listen to those people who don’t know your importance and your core value.
(>) Avoiding fights, arguments and confrontations. When you reached this age, you hate the “dramas” of confrontations and handle exchange of conversation in a calm and smooth compromise & understanding. You take fights as a waste of time. The feeling of being offended and defeated tends to convert into something more meaningful and productive that sets to improve oneself.
Note : Eradicate all the negativity and believe that things really do happen for a reason.
(>) Embrace changes and complete acceptance of persons or events that cannot be controlled or changed.
Lucky are those who are blessed with a privilege upbringing. But being on the side of the under privilege, does not make you less of a person. It gives you more motivation, a jump start or a challenge to achieve your aspirations and dreams. You cannot blame people the way you handle your own life because at this age, choices are made by you alone. Your journey depends on you and the way you want it to be.
Note : Being happy is never an option, always make it your priority .
(>) Built a strong foundation of self-worth, self-respect and self-esteem. These go hand in hand that cultivate one’s Integrity. You may lose them and retrieving it back may need a lot of courage & struggles along the way. But never give up for it will make you complete and whole again. Don’t let anyone crush or pull you down nor let anyone underestimate your worth.
Note: Never undermine the capabilities of others as well as your own.
(>) Fulfilled love to oneself.
Gaining more love to yourself gives you a lot of reason to live. Before anything else never forget yourself, always start to your own self and then branch out to extend or share the love to others.
Note: Good things are bound to happen at the right time ( in God’s perfect time). Just keep a kind, happy and humble heart because you are in the right track. 2014
This is my “almost love story” …
I met a guy at the airport on my flight back to Manila from my vacation in Cebu. The way we met was not the typical romantic way most cheesy movies are made of. I was in line to pay the terminal fee when I felt a push from behind. The guy apologized and I acknowledged it with an angry look and walked away.
I found a seat in the departure lounge and soon after he came over and asked for my flight details. It turned out that we were on the same flight but in the wrong waiting area. I stood up and moved towards the right departure lounge and he offered to carry my luggage for me. Being the independent woman that I am, I declined his offer.
He looked Pinoy to me ( and I must admit He was tall and good-looking ) but he spoke in flawless English. Not to be outdone, I spoke to him in the same Language with oozing confidence. But we did have a small chat and soon enough passengers were called to board the plane. He carried my baggage (yes, this time I didn’t protest (hahahaha) ) and brought me to my seat.
After landing in Manila, I let everyone get off the plane since I was on the farthest seat from the door. I was surprised to see “Him” patiently waiting for me at the exit. A true gentleman, he helped me carry my things when he saw me. As I was to exit the building, he asked for my number but I didn’t give to him. He didn’t make a big deal out of it and just said his name is Dave ( or it could be Dale or Dan wasn’t sure I heard him right) . He asked for my name and since he carried my baggage I told him what my name was. The end.
As I am writing this, I’m thinking maybe he is happily married with kids right now or in a special relationship or has just proposed to his girl. I kept wondering if I gave him my number, would our lives be different now ? Was it a glimpse of destiny that I just let pass me by ? or maybe it was just one of those that happens to random people all the time ?
Well if We are destined to be together then Fate will pull “Us” again together but if not, maybe We are just not meant to be ..
Will Destiny find me again just like in fairy tales and movies?
I still believe that there is only one person meant to each one of us and that “true love” and “lived happily-ever-after” do exist in this lifetime
And I know that True Love is worth the wait. 2014
Going through the hardships and difficulties of being a Medical student, you will see in the end the fruits of all the hard work. Practice in Medicine is a calling that needs great Dedication, Determination, Perseverance and most of all Compassion. Saving & touching lives and improving the quality of life : these are the fulfillment for a Medical Doctor to value the chosen vocation. Something that money definitely cannot pay or buy in anyway.
… I met good Friends in Med. school, though we are different individuals we do know our differences and compromise … …Can see through your eyes, no need to speak-out, knows exactly what’s in your mind… …No need to utter a single word but by merely touching your hand you will never feel alone… …Can tell a funny joke and even sing a unique song to make you smile despite the loaded instructions, several assignments, tough ordeals and the humiliations and abashment… …Lift your spirit by saying “you can make it” : ” don’t give up” , showed sincere concern, love and support… …speak a different language that only ” Us” can understand…
Going through the obstacles of being a Medical student I won’t trade in any place the journey I experienced in the path where I found the main core of my well being. 2001
I made this sketch during my teenage years.
Even at a young age it was clear to me that true or genuine love does exist.
Despite the flaws & the in differences, that person will never hesitate to sit next to you no matter how tough the situations might be, that same person will accept exactly the way you are .. No Conditions .. No Ifs .. No Buts ..
I formulated a triad to have a long lasting relationship :
> Unconditional Love
Apparently, “True Love” is by far hard to find nowadays. But by keeping a young and happy heart ( no age boundaries ), even if there are billions of people around the planet, there is one person intended only for you. # Filled the World with a pure Happy and Young Hearts. # 2014
Got the wrong control number,
going to every room to enter wondering how to pass the very first day
with no friends around was a dismay.
Bio-College Friends, remember those adjustment schedule days? Can you ever recall the adding and changing forms?
Professors like ” Miss Minchin ” was a tension, whose favorite line was recitation.
Assigned me to report “Platonic Love” … all of you made a ‘good laugh’ ..
Dissection of frogs and cats, got the wrong position of the Linea Alba’s part.
Worst part was in P.E . class of the ethnic ” Tinikling Dance” and the Modern dance in ” Sparring”,
not to mention my abashment in “Swimming”.
Geology, with all those stones
Paleozoology, with all the fossil bones.
We passed those subjects, should I be amazed?
Kingdom, Phylum, Divisions of different species,
Fungi and Algae
We did the dirty works with all those living things.
Plantae , Protista and Animalia
and even memorized all Coelenterata.
Bryophyta and Pteridophyta
Equisetum and the Lycopodium
Mollusca, Annelida, Aschelminthes, and Platyhelminthes
I wasn’t sure if I passed all our quizzes.
Cycas Revoluta, Pinus Merkusii including the Nephrolepis Cordipolia
Fasciola Hepatica and Trichuris Trichura
scientific names of all plants and living things.
Paleozoic, Mesozoic and Cenozoic
were the Eras we couldn’t avoid.
Age of Cambrian, Silurian, Devonian and Permian
Triassic,Jurassic and Cretaceous
made Biologist & Geologist geniuses
Pre-Med. students on the go,
to have a degree was the common goal.. 1997
A little love brings out the bright side of life .
A little dream makes things real.
A little laugh makes everyone smiles back.
A little sway tends a person to bend.
A little sound will surely expand.
I believe no one is born bad.
A little food can feed the starve.
A little hug eases one’s doubt.
A little word gives a whole meaning.
I believe everyone needs someone to love.
A little talk gives a good advice.
A little act pushes a huge start.
A little time helps to make things an easy task.
Always live in God’s simple gifts. 1996